{"id":234,"date":"2017-05-01T09:43:58","date_gmt":"2017-05-01T09:43:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=234"},"modified":"2017-11-13T12:10:52","modified_gmt":"2017-11-13T12:10:52","slug":"orgoliul-sau-atunci-cand-prostul-nu-are-nici-o-indoiala-ii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/05\/01\/orgoliul-sau-atunci-cand-prostul-nu-are-nici-o-indoiala-ii\/","title":{"rendered":"Orgoliul &#8230;. sau atunci c\u00e2nd \u201eprostul\u201d nu are nici o \u00eendoial\u0103&#8230; &#8211; partea a doua"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-236\" src=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18073517_2276723059220354_1968970915_n-200x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"200\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18073517_2276723059220354_1968970915_n-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18073517_2276723059220354_1968970915_n-600x900.jpg 600w, https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18073517_2276723059220354_1968970915_n.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cen fiecare dintre noi exist\u0103 o doz\u0103 de orgoliu, care iese la iveal\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd se ciocne\u0219te cu orgoliul altei persoane care ne deranjeaz\u0103 sau ne r\u0103ne\u0219te. Uneori suntem ini\u021biatorii etal\u0103rii orgoliului nostru, alteori dorim s\u0103 r\u0103spundem cu aceea\u0219i moned\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 E firesc s\u0103 ne \u00eentreb\u0103m dac\u0103 orgoliul e bun sau r\u0103u. Fiecare avem nevoie de o doz\u0103 de orgoliu, necesar evolu\u021biei \u0219i adapt\u0103rii noastre, dar c\u00e2nd acesta devine st\u0103p\u00e2n \u0219i face r\u0103u altora, cu timpul va deveni du\u0219manul nostru. Orgoliul, \u00een limitele normalului, este o dovad\u0103 a iubirii de sine, pentru c\u0103 el st\u0103 la baza \u00eencrederii \u00een sine \u0219i a motiva\u021biei spre \u021binte superioare. Este o expresie a individualit\u0103\u021bii. Un om este \u00een regul\u0103 dac\u0103 prin ceea ce face nu deranjeaz\u0103 pe cei din jur \u0219i nu-\u0219i tulbur\u0103 existen\u021ba. \u00cen rela\u021biile de iubire, de cuplu sau p\u0103rinte \u2013 copil, nu are ce c\u0103uta orgoliul, acesta fiind expresia luptei de putere, iar unde este lupt\u0103 nu poate fi \u0219i iubire autentic\u0103. Totu\u0219i, niciodat\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 trecem \u00een extrema cealalt\u0103, a modestiei excesive sau a umilin\u021bei, care \u00een timp devine tot expresia orgoliului.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Noi nu ne na\u0219tem orgolio\u0219i ci, pe parcursul existen\u021bei noastre suntem nevoi\u021bi s\u0103 ne ap\u0103r\u0103m \u00een diverse situa\u021bii. \u00cen spatele orgoliului st\u0103 \u00eentotdeauna frica, cea mai important\u0103 emo\u021bie care \u00ee\u0219i pune amprenta asupra vie\u021bii noastre. La o privire obiectiv\u0103 spunem c\u0103 orgoliul este expresia frustr\u0103rilor noastre. Dar frustr\u0103rile de unde apar? Din frica de ac\u021biune, frica de a nu fi iubit, de a fi respins, judecat, criticat, de a nu te face de r\u00e2s, de a fi p\u0103r\u0103sit, frica de suferin\u021b\u0103&#8230; Psihicul, pentru a ne ap\u0103ra de suferin\u021b\u0103, genereaz\u0103 mecanisme de ap\u0103rare, orgoliul put\u00e2nd fi o form\u0103 a acestora.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Pentru a r\u0103zbate \u00een h\u0103\u021bi\u0219ul fricilor sale, orgoliosul vrea s\u0103 par\u0103 puternic, superior, c\u00e2nd, de fapt, este o fals\u0103 putere, o fals\u0103 \u00eencredere, o fals\u0103 stim\u0103 de sine. Orgoliul \u00eel st\u0103p\u00e2ne\u0219te pe orgolios, comportamentul acestuia fiind practic incon\u0219tient. Faptul c\u0103 puterea sa nu e autentic\u0103 \u00eel face foarte u\u0219or de manipulat, el devenind victima propriului orgoliu.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Orgoliosul nu-\u0219i recunoa\u0219te gre\u0219eala de frica de a nu fi judecat, pedepsit, nu face un pas \u00eenapoi pentru c\u0103, c\u00e2ndva, a cedat \u0219i nu a primit ceea ce a a\u0219teptat, a fost tr\u0103dat, min\u021bit, se consider\u0103 superior tuturor pentru c\u0103 doar a\u0219a e sigur pe el c\u0103 va fi acceptat, iubit. De fapt orice om ne poate fi superior pe o anumit\u0103 \u201edirec\u021bie\u201d. Nu putem fi \u00een v\u00e2rf \u00een toate domeniile, este practic imposibil&#8230; doar pentru orgolios \u00a0nu e a\u0219a!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Este important s\u0103 facem distinc\u021bie \u00eentre orgoliu \u0219i m\u00e2ndrie. O persoan\u0103 poate fi m\u00e2ndr\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 a fi orgolioas\u0103. M\u00e2ndria se refer\u0103 la propria p\u0103rere despre sine care \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 putere, \u00eencredere, pe c\u00e2nd orgoliul este legat de modul \u00een care am vrea s\u0103 fim v\u0103zu\u021bi de ceilal\u021bi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Cum \u00eemi dau seama c\u0103 o persoan\u0103 sau eu sunt orgolios? Iat\u0103 c\u00e2teva comportamente specifice:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">El \u0219tie tot, cunoa\u0219te tot! Se lupt\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi demonstreze c\u0103 are dreptate. Este \u00een stare s\u0103 mint\u0103 \u0219i chiar s\u0103 sfideze logica. Se impune, vorbe\u0219te repede, gr\u0103bit, ca nu cumva s\u0103 scape din m\u00e2ini \u201eputerea\u201d, \u0219ansa de a c\u00e2\u0219tiga \u201elupta\u201d.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Nu \u00ee\u0219i exprim\u0103 emo\u021biile, sentimentele, nu iart\u0103, nu-\u0219i cere scuze. Consider\u0103 c\u0103 exprimarea emo\u021biilor este o form\u0103 de sl\u0103biciune.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Nu face nici o schimbare. De ce ar trebui s\u0103 schimbe ceva? Doar e perfect! El e superior tuturor! Caut\u0103 perfec\u021biunea la cei din jur. Nimeni nu e suficient de bun!<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Nu se r\u0103zg\u00e2nde\u0219te niciodat\u0103 pentru c\u0103 o consider\u0103 un act de la\u0219itate. Nu fac concesii \u0219i compromisuri. Dac\u0103 \u00eei ceri sau \u00eel rogi s\u0103 fac\u0103 \u00eentr-un anume fel va face exact invers, chiar dac\u0103 are de pierdut. Este dispus s\u0103 piard\u0103 timp, bani, prieteni, familie, agoniseala de-o via\u021b\u0103, doar s\u0103 fie a\u0219a cum vrea el, adic\u0103 invers de cum vrei tu.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Se afl\u0103 mereu \u00een lupt\u0103 de putere chiar \u0219i cu cei pe care ar trebui s\u0103-i iubeasc\u0103, se compar\u0103, judec\u0103, ironizeaz\u0103, critic\u0103, b\u00e2rfe\u0219te, nu e mul\u021bumit de nimeni \u0219i de nimic. Este ipocrit \u0219i critic\u0103 la ceilal\u021bi ceea ce tocmai el face.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">A\u0219teapt\u0103 recuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 pentru faptele sale, se \u00eenconjoar\u0103 de oameni pe care \u00eei consider\u0103 mai jos dec\u00e2t el, pentru c\u0103 ace\u0219tia de obicei \u00eel flateaz\u0103.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Fie se victimizeaz\u0103 \u2013 to\u021bi sunt vinova\u021bi!, fie sare \u00een ajutorul celorlal\u021bi cu sfaturi \u2013 doar el poate avea solu\u021bia corect\u0103!<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00cen preajma lui exist\u0103 mereu tensiune, conflicte stupide, o lupt\u0103 de putere care \u00een final se soldeaz\u0103 cu emo\u021bii negative. De multe ori se observ\u0103 cum persoana chiar revine la vechile discu\u021bii tensionate, pentru c\u0103 niciodat\u0103 nu e suficient.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Niciodat\u0103 nu recunoa\u0219te meritele altcuiva. Este invidios \u0219i chiar dac\u0103 realiz\u0103rile celuilalt sunt evidente, el o pune pe seama norocului, nicidecum a capacit\u0103\u021bilor persoanei respective.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Orgoliosul este egoist, nu-i pas\u0103 c\u0103 r\u0103ne\u0219te, c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i urm\u0103re\u0219te interesul personal produc\u00e2nd suferin\u021b\u0103 celor din jur.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Din dorin\u021ba de a se victimiza, de a g\u0103si mereu vinova\u021bi, poate deveni cu timpul suspicios, s\u0103 i se par\u0103 c\u0103 unii comploteaz\u0103 \u00eempotriva lui, c\u0103 to\u021bi au \u201eceva\u201d cu el. De aici se na\u0219te gelozia \u0219i posesivitatea.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00ce\u0219i creeaz\u0103 situa\u021bii \u00een care s\u0103 poat\u0103 ie\u0219i \u00een eviden\u021b\u0103: s\u0103-\u0219i etaleze hainele de firm\u0103, s\u0103-\u0219i parcheze Mercedesul unde s\u0103-l vad\u0103 prietenii, s\u0103 se laude cu prietenii sus-pu\u0219i, cu tot ce a realizat, chiar dac\u0103 uneori sunt \u201edoar \u00een visele lui\u201d.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Se va min\u021bi singur, nu va recunoa\u0219te realitatea vie\u021bii pe care o tr\u0103ie\u0219te pentru c\u0103 orgoliul nu-i permite s\u0103-\u0219i dezv\u0103luie sl\u0103biciunile. Nu este autentic \u0219i \u00eei este fric\u0103 s\u0103 fie deschis.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103 manipuleze, face pe victima \u0219i acuz\u0103, sunt autoritari \u0219i tran\u0219an\u021bi \u0219i \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 provoace team\u0103. Chiar dac\u0103 are de c\u00e2\u0219tigat nu cedeaz\u0103, prefer\u0103 s\u0103 aib\u0103 dreptate dec\u00e2t s\u0103 fie fericit.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Orgoliosul este nes\u0103n\u0103tos psihic \u0219i prin comportamentele sale poate produce suferin\u021be puternice celor din jur, pot distruge vie\u021bile lor \u0219i acelor dragi. \u00cen timp vor dezvolta boli psihosomatice, deoarece st\u0103rile interioare ne afecteaz\u0103 corpul.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cen terapie orgoliul va face orice pentru a supravie\u021bui, va apare rezisten\u021ba la schimbare \u0219i \u201ete va ataca\u201d \u00een primele s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni. Dac\u0103 ai curaj, dup\u0103 primele 5, 6 s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, rezisten\u021ba lui va \u00eencepe s\u0103 sl\u0103beasc\u0103 \u0219i totul devine din ce \u00een ce mai u\u0219or.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Dac\u0103 ai cunoscut o persoan\u0103 orgolioas\u0103 probabil \u0219tii c\u0103 ea ne produce reac\u021bii diverse: ne atrag \u00een mrejele lor, ne gratuleaz\u0103, ne lingu\u0219esc, pentru ca apoi s\u0103 ne izbim de r\u0103utatea \u0219i egoismul lor. Ne r\u0103nesc c\u00e2nd ne a\u0219tept\u0103m mai pu\u021bin, ne umilesc, ne jignesc, ne b\u00e2rfesc, uneltesc \u00eempotriva noastr\u0103, apoi apar din nou \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103 ca \u0219i cum nimic nu s-ar fi \u00eent\u00e2mplat. Uneori \u00eei ur\u00e2m, alteori putem fi invidio\u0219i c\u0103 nu suntem \u00een locul lor. Pot fi inteligen\u021bi \u0219i cu multe calit\u0103\u021bi sau oameni cu o g\u00e2ndire limitat\u0103. Indiferent de persoan\u0103, orgoliul celuilalt va scoate la iveal\u0103 orgoliul din noi \u00een\u0219ine, oblig\u00e2ndu-ne \u201es\u0103 ne lu\u0103m la tr\u00e2nt\u0103\u201d. Orgoliul nostru devine reactiv la orgoliul celuilalt. \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Indiferent despre cine e vorba, eu sau cel\u0103lalt, orgoliosul nu e dec\u00e2t un om trist \u0219i nefericit&#8230; \u0218i bine\u00een\u021beles c\u0103 el nu \u0219tie asta!<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Psiholog clinician \u2013 psihoterapeut<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Antoanela \u2013 Carmen\u00a0Cogian<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Copierea sau reproducerea f\u0103r\u0103 men\u021bionarea sursei este strict interzis\u0103!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cen fiecare dintre noi exist\u0103 o doz\u0103 de orgoliu, care iese la iveal\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd se ciocne\u0219te cu orgoliul altei persoane care ne deranjeaz\u0103 sau ne r\u0103ne\u0219te. Uneori suntem ini\u021biatorii etal\u0103rii orgoliului nostru, alteori dorim s\u0103 r\u0103spundem cu aceea\u0219i moned\u0103.<br \/>\n <a class=\"read-more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/05\/01\/orgoliul-sau-atunci-cand-prostul-nu-are-nici-o-indoiala-ii\/\">READ MORE<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":236,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-234","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-psihoterapie"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18073517_2276723059220354_1968970915_n.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/234","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=234"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/234\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":340,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/234\/revisions\/340"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/236"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=234"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=234"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=234"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}