{"id":245,"date":"2017-05-13T19:18:23","date_gmt":"2017-05-13T19:18:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=245"},"modified":"2017-11-13T12:10:30","modified_gmt":"2017-11-13T12:10:30","slug":"dezvoltarea-personala-sau-cand-crezi-ca-o-sa-te-trasneasca-fericirea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/05\/13\/dezvoltarea-personala-sau-cand-crezi-ca-o-sa-te-trasneasca-fericirea\/","title":{"rendered":"Dezvoltarea personal\u0103&#8230; sau c\u00e2nd crezi c\u0103 o s\u0103 te tr\u0103sneasc\u0103 fericirea&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-246\" src=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18471226_2291720407720619_733495666_n-211x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"211\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18471226_2291720407720619_733495666_n-211x300.jpg 211w, https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18471226_2291720407720619_733495666_n.jpg 540w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 211px) 100vw, 211px\" \/>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Totul \u00eencepe \u00eentr-o zi c\u00e2nd ai o revela\u021bie: totul este relativ&#8230;. absolut totul&#8230;. via\u021ba, adev\u0103rul, fericirea, normalitatea, liberul arbitru, altruismul, libertatea, iubirea&#8230;. Nu exist\u0103 dec\u00e2t o certitudine! Faptul c\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi vei muri! Frica de moarte este \u0219i va r\u0103m\u00e2ne cel mai puternic resort al schimb\u0103rii. \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Dar cum ne schimb\u0103m? Pe ce \u201ec\u0103rare\u201d o lu\u0103m? Unii merg la preot, al\u021bi la astrolog, unii la ghicitoare, al\u021bii la psiholog. De fapt, fiecare merge la acela cu care rezoneaz\u0103, la acela care se afl\u0103 pe acela\u0219i nivel de \u00een\u021belegere cu el. Cei care aleg calea \u0219tiin\u021bific\u0103, a psihologiei, pot ajunge la psihoterapie \u0219i aici vin cei care au curaj s\u0103-\u0219i \u00eenfrunte fricile, s\u0103-\u0219i accepte suferin\u021ba \u0219i chiar s\u0103 fac\u0103 ceva diferit. Bravo lor! Un alt segment alege \u201ec\u0103r\u0103rile\u201d mai bl\u00e2nde: citesc c\u0103r\u021bi de dezvoltare personal\u0103 p\u00e2n\u0103 li se acre\u0219te \u0219i le \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 pe de rost, merg la grupuri de dezvoltare personal\u0103 a\u0219tept\u00e2nd o minune care nu mai vine sau alte c\u0103i: aromaterapie, masaje de tot felul, deseneaz\u0103 mandale \u0219i mediteaz\u0103 sau, mai nou, dup\u0103 poten\u021bial financiar, fac o excursie p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een Tibet, poate, poate, vor prinde de pe acolo o raz\u0103 de lumin\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 De ce aleg unii calea mai ocolit\u0103 \u0219i nu accept\u0103 c\u0103 au nevoie de un terapeut? Poate pentru c\u0103 le e fric\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i afle problemele? Poate c\u0103 afl\u00e2ndu-le le vor \u201em\u0103cina\u201d con\u0219tiin\u021ba \u0219i vor fi nevoi\u021bi s\u0103 le rezolve, pierz\u00e2nd de fapt o serie de avantaje? Da! Da! Ai citit bine! Avantaje! Poate c\u0103 le e fric\u0103 de suferin\u021b\u0103 sau pur \u0219i simplu consider\u0103 c\u0103 nu au nici o problem\u0103, ci doar vor s\u0103-\u0219i mai finiseze cumva, \u0219tiu ei cum, evolu\u021bia personal\u0103? Indiferent de motiv, cu timpul consta\u021bi c\u0103 mare lucru nu ai rezolvat. S\u0103 vedem \u0219i de ce&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cen terapie, persoanele cu cea mai mare rezisten\u021b\u0103 la schimbare sunt de obicei persoane care au f\u0103cut sau au citit anterior c\u0103r\u021bi \u0219i articole de dezvoltare personal\u0103. Nu spun c\u0103 nu e bine. Nicidecum! Problema e de fapt sensul, direc\u021bia, dac\u0103 aceasta e ordinea corect\u0103 de abordare care va aduce schimbarea. Deci&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Dac\u0103 cite\u0219ti c\u0103r\u021bi sau articole de dezvoltare personal\u0103 asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 ai \u0219i capacitatea \u0219i determinarea de a le pune \u00een practic\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 a fi ajutat. Acumularea cu nemiluita, citind tot ce prinzi, va face un \u201eghiveci\u201d \u00een capul t\u0103u, o acumulare dezordonat\u0103 de informa\u021bii \u0219i vei fi tentat s\u0103 reproduci \u00een momente cheie ceea ce ai citit, consider\u00e2nd c\u0103 e suficient s\u0103 \u0219tii. Vei cita replici din c\u0103r\u021bi, vei v\u00e2na gre\u0219elile celor din jur \u0219i te vei sim\u021bi superior \u0219i foarte important c\u0103 ai \u0219ansa s\u0103-\u021bi etalezi cuno\u0219tin\u021bele \u0219i \u201es\u0103 le faci observa\u021bie\u201d c\u0103 ceilal\u021bi nu sunt la nivelul t\u0103u. Beneficiu pentru tine? ZERO! Mai mult, rela\u021biile cu cei dragi pot fi puternic zdruncinate, deoarece nimeni nu se simte bine c\u00e2nd altcineva \u00eei d\u0103 lec\u021bii, crez\u00e2ndu-se atoate\u0219tiutor.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Citind mai mult dec\u00e2t e necesar \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 \u00eendrumarea \u0219i supervizarea unui terapeut \u2013 pentru c\u0103 fiecare \u00een\u021belege ce vrea \u0219i cum \u00eei convine \u2013 va facilita formarea unor tehnici de ap\u0103rare ale psihicului, care vor fi \u00een dezavantajul t\u0103u \u00eentr-o terapie ulterioar\u0103. Deci, atunci c\u00e2nd terapeutul va vrea s\u0103 acceseze o ipotez\u0103 terapeutic\u0103, tu vei avea \u201er\u0103spunsul corect\u201d ascunz\u00e2nd incon\u0219tient realitatea, aceasta \u00eengreun\u00e2nd terapia.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Conceptul de dezvoltare personal\u0103 are la baz\u0103 tehnici, cursuri, articole, c\u0103r\u021bi \u0219i chiar filme. De multe ori, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 ne d\u0103m seama, aplic\u0103m tehnicile f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u0219tim dac\u0103 ni se potrivesc, dac\u0103 ele \u021bintesc acolo unde trebuie, dac\u0103 vor fi rezultate de durat\u0103. Psihicul este o \u201ezon\u0103\u201d foarte stufoas\u0103 \u0219i doar un profesionist, care se ocup\u0103 cu asta zi de zi, or\u0103 de or\u0103, vede realitatea \u00eentr-un mod s\u0103n\u0103tos \u0219i benefic pentru dezvoltarea ta.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u201ePia\u021ba\u201d dezvolt\u0103rii personale a devenit foarte abundent\u0103 \u0219i de multe ori o persoan\u0103 necunosc\u0103toare poate alege o form\u0103 care nu este validat\u0103 \u0219tiin\u021bific sau care nici m\u0103car nu este acreditat\u0103 de colegiul psihologilor. O metod\u0103 de acest fel \u0219i \u00eent\u00e2lnit\u0103 pe toate canalele este, de exemplu, Programarea Neuro Lingvistic\u0103 \u2013 NLP. Atunci c\u00e2nd alegi felul cum vrei s\u0103 te dezvol\u021bi trebuie s\u0103 te informezi \u0219i s\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 sunt mul\u021bi consilieri f\u0103cu\u021bi \u201epeste noapte\u201d \u0219i ca \u00een orice domeniu nu toate persoanele sunt de bun\u0103 credin\u021b\u0103.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Este foarte important s\u0103-\u021bi dezvol\u021bi autoobservarea, s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021bi s\u0103 m\u0103sori eficien\u021ba aplic\u0103rii tehnicilor. F\u0103r\u0103 o privire obiectiv\u0103, a unei persoane neutre, este greu s\u0103 te autoevaluezi cinstit. De multe ori sinceritatea te poate descuraja \u0219i de aceea f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 vrei te po\u021bi min\u021bi. Cu amuzament am v\u0103zut un consilier de dezvoltare personal\u0103 care spunea c\u00e2t de u\u0219or po\u021bi sl\u0103bi g\u00e2ndind pozitiv, iubindu-te \u0219i repet\u00e2nd anumite afirma\u021bii pozitive, iar persoana respectiv\u0103 era practic obez\u0103!<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">De multe ori particip\u0103m la cursuri de dezvoltare personal\u0103 av\u00e2nd a\u0219tept\u0103ri mari, f\u0103r\u0103 a \u00een\u021belege c\u0103 starea de bine, de moment, este dat\u0103 de fapt de energia de grup, at\u00e2t de pl\u0103cut\u0103 \u0219i de ce nu benefic\u0103. Doar c\u0103 problemele fiec\u0103rei persoane sunt specifice&#8230; at\u00e2t de specifice&#8230; \u00eenc\u00e2t nu este posibil ca \u00eentr-un grup de 10 persoane, de exemplu, cu cele c\u00e2teva minute c\u00e2nd \u00eemi vine r\u00e2ndul, s\u0103 mi se rezolve problemele, f\u0103r\u0103 a fi focusat pe mine \u0219i pe problem\u0103 un terapeut timp de o or\u0103. Energia de grup te poate motiva pe moment, dar motiva\u021bia dispare din p\u0103cate dup\u0103 c\u00e2teva zile, mai ales atunci c\u00e2nd nu e \u201ecroit\u0103\u201d rezolvarea pe problema ta.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Totu\u0219i, cea mai important\u0103 piedic\u0103 este cea dat\u0103 de sensul \u00een care merge dezvoltarea ta. Nu po\u021bi s\u0103 aplici tehnici de dezvoltare personal\u0103 \u0219i care s\u0103 dea rezultate dac\u0103 ai probleme mult mai profunde care necesit\u0103 rezolvare. Ai ales nivelul superficial de rezolvare a problemelor \u0219i de acesta vei avea parte. Nu e de mirare c\u0103 foarte multe persoane dup\u0103 ce termin\u0103 cursuri de dezvoltare personal\u0103 realizeaz\u0103 c\u0103 de fapt nu au rezolvat nimic. E ca \u0219i cum \u021bi-ai zugr\u0103vi casa cu floricele, culori frumoase, iar pe interior se surp\u0103. Cum po\u021bi s\u0103 g\u00e2nde\u0219ti pozitiv \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi spui ce minunat\u0103 e\u0219ti, dac\u0103 nu \u021bi-ai rezolvat trauma unui viol sau a mor\u021bii unui p\u0103rinte \u00een copil\u0103rie?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Nu e u\u0219or s\u0103 demontezi ceea ce a fost cl\u0103dit vreme de zeci de ani, mai ales, trat\u00e2nd cu superficialitate problemele \u0219ansele de reu\u0219it\u0103 vor \u00eent\u00e2rzia s\u0103 apar\u0103. Procesul este greu, de durat\u0103, necesit\u0103 perseveren\u021b\u0103, seriozitate \u0219i determinare. Este nevoie mai \u00eent\u00e2i s\u0103-\u021bi dezvol\u021bi maturitatea psihologic\u0103 \u00eentr-o terapie individual\u0103, s\u0103-\u021bi rezolvi traumele, suferin\u021bele \u0219i abia apoi s\u0103 recurgi la dezvoltare personal\u0103, ca o \u00eencununare a rezultatelor evolu\u021biei tale. Dar despre maturitatea psihologic\u0103 \u00eentr-un articol viitor&#8230; \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Psiholog clinician \u2013 psihoterapeut<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Antoanela \u2013 Carmen\u00a0Cogian<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Copierea sau reproducerea f\u0103r\u0103 men\u021bionarea sursei este strict interzis\u0103!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Totul \u00eencepe \u00eentr-o zi c\u00e2nd ai o revela\u021bie: totul este relativ&#8230;. absolut totul&#8230;. via\u021ba, adev\u0103rul, fericirea, normalitatea, liberul arbitru, altruismul, libertatea, iubirea&#8230;. Nu exist\u0103 dec\u00e2t o certitudine! Faptul c\u0103 \u00eentr-o zi vei muri! Frica de moarte este \u0219i va r\u0103m\u00e2ne cel mai puternic resort al schimb\u0103rii. \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <br \/>\n <a class=\"read-more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/05\/13\/dezvoltarea-personala-sau-cand-crezi-ca-o-sa-te-trasneasca-fericirea\/\">READ MORE<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":246,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-245","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dezvoltare-personala"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/18471226_2291720407720619_733495666_n.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/245","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=245"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/245\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":339,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/245\/revisions\/339"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/246"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=245"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=245"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=245"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}