{"id":256,"date":"2017-06-07T12:52:57","date_gmt":"2017-06-07T12:52:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=256"},"modified":"2017-11-13T12:10:08","modified_gmt":"2017-11-13T12:10:08","slug":"maturitatea-psihologica-sau-care-e-secretul-schimbarii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/06\/07\/maturitatea-psihologica-sau-care-e-secretul-schimbarii\/","title":{"rendered":"Maturitatea psihologic\u0103&#8230; sau care e secretul schimb\u0103rii"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Vrem, nu vrem, \u00een permanen\u021b\u0103 evolu\u0103m. C\u0103 e \u00een bine sau \u00een r\u0103u, tot evolu\u021bie este. Unii dintre noi confund\u0103 evolu\u021bia, trecerea timpului, cu schimbarea \u00een sine. Dac\u0103 azi e\u0219ti exact ca \u0219i ieri po\u021bi spune c\u0103 ai o identitate puternic\u0103, dar nu c\u0103 te-ai dezvoltat. <\/span><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Nu de pu\u021bine ori auzim \u00een jurul nostru cum unii declar\u0103 m\u00e2ndrii: \u201eEu am r\u0103mas acela\u0219i om!\u201d. Da, putem evolua dar f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 schimb\u0103m mare lucru \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103 \u0219i asta se vede cu ochiul liber pentru fiecare dintre noi. E bine? E r\u0103u?<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright  wp-image-257\" src=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/18983412_2306889822870344_506514753_n-212x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"271\" height=\"383\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/18983412_2306889822870344_506514753_n-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/18983412_2306889822870344_506514753_n.jpg 450w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 271px) 100vw, 271px\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Identificarea la extrem cu ceea ce e\u0219ti la un moment dat \u00ee\u021bi poate produce suferin\u021b\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd via\u021ba te pune \u00een anumite situa\u021bii \u0219i tu nu vrei s\u0103 te schimbi. Cu c\u00e2t te opui mai mult fluxului de schimbare impus de via\u021b\u0103 cu at\u00e2t vei suferi mai mult, \u00een forme din ce \u00een ce mai intense, \u00eencep\u00e2nd de la rela\u021bii disfunc\u021bionale \u0219i p\u00e2n\u0103 la boli foarte grave. Eul, care este format din toate credin\u021bele noastre acumulate pe parcursul vie\u021bii, trece prin mai multe stadii de evolu\u021bie, de transformare \u0219i c\u00e2nd ne opunem for\u021bei fire\u0219ti de transformare, suferim. Cu alte cuvinte, ceea ce g\u00e2ndim, ceea ce sim\u021bim \u0219i felul cum ac\u021bion\u0103m, nu mai este compatibil cu situa\u021bia nou\u0103 ap\u0103rut\u0103 \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103. Dac\u0103 nu ne schimb\u0103m modul de a g\u00e2ndi, cel creator de suferin\u021b\u0103, vom suferi \u00een continuare din ce \u00een ce mai mult.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Din p\u0103cate, foarte mul\u021bi dintre adul\u021bi nu au dep\u0103\u0219it un tipar comportamental ce \u021bine de stadii de dezvoltare din copil\u0103rie. Ei g\u00e2ndesc \u0219i ac\u021bioneaz\u0103 \u00een via\u021b\u0103 av\u00e2nd ca baz\u0103 de pornire o serie de principii: Ce p\u0103\u021besc? Ce primesc \u00een schimb? Ce vor spune ceilal\u021bi? Ce trebuie s\u0103 fac? Foarte pu\u021bini dintre noi ajung la stadiul de a a ac\u021biona conform principiului: Ce cred eu c\u0103 e bine s\u0103 fac?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Este simplu s\u0103-\u021bi dai seama dac\u0103 s-a produs o schimbare \u00een via\u021ba ta: rela\u021bii mai armonioase, o stare de bine \u0219i de bucurie, nu mai e\u0219ti obosit \u0219i stresat \u00een permanen\u021b\u0103, oamenii din jurul t\u0103u sunt mai buni, \u00een mintea ta e lini\u0219te.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Dezvoltarea personal\u0103 nu va avea efect dec\u00e2t \u00een momentul \u00een care individul va atinge a anumit\u0103 maturitate psihologic\u0103, maturitate care o po\u021bi ob\u021bine doar \u00een urma unui proces terapeutic dorit \u0219i asumat, cu perseveren\u021b\u0103 \u0219i seriozitate. Abia apoi vei putea \u00een\u021belege \u0219i aplica tehnici \u0219i metode noi de adaptare. Tendin\u021ba oamenilor, pentru c\u0103 nu mai au r\u0103bdare, este de a s\u0103ri etape, de a for\u021ba schimbarea, \u00eencerc\u00e2nd s\u0103 tr\u0103iasc\u0103 \u00eentr-o realitate artificial\u0103: pot nega realitatea g\u00e2ndind for\u021bat pozitiv, pot \u00eencerca s\u0103 par\u0103 altceva dec\u00e2t sunt \u00een realitate pun\u00e2ndu-\u0219i m\u0103\u0219ti, se pot for\u021ba s\u0103 pun\u0103 \u00een practic\u0103 ceea ce le spune o carte, un mentor sau un consilier de dezvoltare personal\u0103. \u00cen cur\u00e2nd vor constata c\u0103 nimic \u00een jurul lor nu s-a schimbat, situa\u021biile sunt la fel ca \u00eenainte, dar ei strig\u0103 din r\u0103sputeri c\u0103 s-au schimbat \u0219i ceilal\u021bi nu v\u0103d.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 fii matur psihologic, adic\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi dezvol\u021bi Eul, s\u0103-l faci flexibil \u0219i gata de schimbare? Iat\u0103 c\u00e2teva repere care te pot ajuta \u00een propria evaluare:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00ce\u021bi asumi responsabilitatea pentru faptele tale \u2013 recuno\u0219ti c\u00e2nd ai gre\u0219it, \u00ee\u021bi ceri scuze, \u00eenve\u021bi din gre\u0219eli, ai curajul s\u0103 ceri celor din jur s\u0103-\u021bi spun\u0103 dac\u0103 ai gre\u0219it cu ceva;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Manife\u0219ti empatie fa\u021b\u0103 de persoanele din jurul t\u0103u \u2013 \u00een\u021belegi o fiin\u021b\u0103 \u00een suferin\u021b\u0103 \u0219i o respec\u021bi, aju\u021bi atunci c\u00e2nd \u021bi se cere ajutorul \u0219i doar atunci;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Accep\u021bi negocierea dorin\u021belor tale \u2013 nu for\u021bezi oamenii \u0219i situa\u021biile din jurul t\u0103u s\u0103 fie \u00een concordan\u021b\u0103 cu dorin\u021bele tale;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Ai o bun\u0103 toleran\u021b\u0103 la frustrare \u2013 nu te deranjeaz\u0103 ac\u021biunile celor din jur \u0219i nu vezi mereu du\u0219mani \u00een jurul t\u0103u care au ceva cu tine;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Accep\u021bi c\u0103 nu orice dorin\u021b\u0103 poate fi \u00eendeplinit\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd \u00ee\u021bi dore\u0219ti \u2013 nu consideri c\u0103 \u021bi se cuvine totul \u0219i c\u0103 cei din jur trebuie s\u0103-\u021bi stea la dispozi\u021bie \u0219i s\u0103 te serveasc\u0103;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">E\u0219ti sociabil \u0219i ai mai mult de un prieten \u2013 num\u0103rul foarte mic de prieteni, o via\u021b\u0103 social\u0103 auster\u0103 \u0219i ascuns\u0103, tr\u0103deaz\u0103 probleme de adaptare, de acceptare, de \u00eencredere;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Ai \u00eencredere \u00een tine \u2013 ai curaj s\u0103 faci lucruri noi, ie\u0219i \u00een permanen\u021b\u0103 din zona ta de confort;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Manife\u0219ti dorin\u021b\u0103 pentru studiu \u0219i pentru schimbare \u2013 participi la cursuri, evenimente culturale, cite\u0219ti, \u00eenve\u021bi;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00ce\u021bi accep\u021bi e\u0219ecurile \u0219i le po\u021bi dep\u0103\u0219i \u2013 consideri c\u0103 un om are dreptul s\u0103 gre\u0219easc\u0103;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Nu mai intri \u00een diverse roluri din jocurile psihologice \u2013 nu te mai victimizezi, nu mai cau\u021bi \u00een permanen\u021b\u0103 vinova\u021bi pentru problemele tale, \u00ee\u021bi vezi de treaba ta \u0219i nu mai agresezi oamenii din jurul t\u0103u;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 P\u00e2n\u0103 nu \u00een\u021belegem cum func\u021bioneaz\u0103 fiin\u021ba uman\u0103, cum ne afecteaz\u0103 emo\u021biile \u0219i cum s\u0103 lucr\u0103m cu ele, p\u00e2n\u0103 nu \u00een\u021belegem ce ni se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103, cum putem trece de la automatisme la o ac\u021biune con\u0219tient\u0103, nu vom ob\u021bine beneficiile unei dezvolt\u0103ri personale. Punerea la \u00eendoial\u0103 a convingerilor noastre \u0219i acceptarea dizolv\u0103rii Eului cu credin\u021bele gre\u0219ite atunci c\u00e2nd via\u021ba o cere, ne va scuti de o dizolvare brutal\u0103 \u0219i dureroas\u0103 a Eului nostru. Vom duce o via\u021b\u0103 autentic\u0103 \u0219i \u00een armonie cu cei din jur \u0219i cu noi \u00een\u0219ine. <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Psiholog clinician \u2013 psihoterapeut<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Antoanela \u2013 Carmen\u00a0Cogian<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 24px; font-family: Gabriola;\">Copierea sau reproducerea f\u0103r\u0103 men\u021bionarea sursei este strict interzis\u0103!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Vrem, nu vrem, \u00een permanen\u021b\u0103 evolu\u0103m. C\u0103 e \u00een bine sau \u00een r\u0103u, tot evolu\u021bie este. Unii dintre noi confund\u0103 evolu\u021bia, trecerea timpului, cu schimbarea \u00een sine. Dac\u0103 azi e\u0219ti exact ca \u0219i ieri po\u021bi spune c\u0103 ai o identitate puternic\u0103, dar nu c\u0103 te-ai dezvoltat. <br \/>\n <a class=\"read-more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/06\/07\/maturitatea-psihologica-sau-care-e-secretul-schimbarii\/\">READ MORE<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":257,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-256","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dezvoltare-personala"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/18983412_2306889822870344_506514753_n.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/256","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=256"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/256\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":338,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/256\/revisions\/338"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/257"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=256"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=256"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=256"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}