{"id":263,"date":"2017-06-07T15:04:11","date_gmt":"2017-06-07T15:04:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=263"},"modified":"2017-06-07T15:04:11","modified_gmt":"2017-06-07T15:04:11","slug":"cum-le-vorbim-copiilor-despre-moarte","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/06\/07\/cum-le-vorbim-copiilor-despre-moarte\/","title":{"rendered":"Cum le vorbim copiilor despre moarte?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 C\u0103 moartea este de fapt singura certitudine \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103 aceasta o \u0219tim cu to\u021bii! Interesant este c\u0103, de\u0219i e singurul adev\u0103r absolut, este lucrul despre care dorim s\u0103 vorbim cel mai pu\u021bin, mai mult, evit\u0103m subiectul c\u00e2t mai mult posibil. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Frica de moarte, cea mai puternic\u0103 fric\u0103, este cea care ne \u00eendeamn\u0103 la acest \"\"comportament, care de multe ori ne poate aduce mai mult r\u0103u dec\u00e2t bine.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Atunci c\u00e2nd cineva drag moare, poate fi dificil pentru tine ca \u0219i p\u0103rinte s\u0103 \u0219tii cum s\u0103-\u021bi \u00eenve\u021bi copilul s\u0103 fac\u0103 fa\u021b\u0103 \u00een aceste momente, mai ales dac\u0103 lup\u021bi \u0219i tu pentru propria durere. Felul \u00een care copii \u00een\u021beleg moartea depinde foarte mult de v\u00e2rsta la care se afl\u0103, experien\u021ba de via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i tipul de personalitate. Fiecare copil este unic!<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Este foarte important s\u0103 fii sincer cu copilul t\u0103u \u0219i s\u0103-l \u00eencurajezi s\u0103-\u021bi pun\u0103 \u00eentreb\u0103ri, chiar dac\u0103 uneori \u00ee\u021bi va fi greu s\u0103 \u00eei r\u0103spunzi. Este important de asemenea s\u0103 creezi o atmosfer\u0103 de confort \u0219i deschidere cu acesta \u0219i s\u0103-i explici c\u0103 felul \u00een care te sim\u021bi nu este bun sau r\u0103u, la fel cum emo\u021biile noastre nu sunt bune sau rele. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 La v\u00e2rsta de aproximativ 5 \u2013 6 ani viziunea copiilor despre lume este una literal\u0103. \u00cen acest caz ar trebui s\u0103-i explici copilului despre moarte \u00een termeni concre\u021bi, de baz\u0103. Dac\u0103 persoana decedata a fost bolnav\u0103 sau \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103, \u00eei po\u021bi explica copilului faptul c\u0103, corpul persoanei nu mai func\u021biona, iar medicii nu au reu\u0219it s\u0103-l mai repare. Dac\u0103 persoana a decedat brusc \u00eentr-un accident, \u00eei po\u021bi spune copilului ceea ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat \u0219i din aceast\u0103 cauz\u0103, corpul a \u00eencetat s\u0103 mai func\u021bioneze. Cuvintele \u201ea muri\u201d sau \u201emoarte\u201d \u00eenseamn\u0103 \u00eencetarea corpului de a mai func\u021biona. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 IMPORTANT! Evita\u021bi s\u0103 le spune\u021bi copiilor c\u0103 persoana respectiv\u0103 \u201ea plecat\u201d, \u201ea mers la culcare\u201d sau c\u0103 familia \u201ea pierdut-o\u201d. Copii vor \u00een\u021belege aceste fraze literal \u0219i ulterior le poate fi fric\u0103 s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la culcare sau s\u0103 le fie fric\u0103 ori de c\u00e2te ori cineva pleac\u0103 undeva. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 La v\u00e2rsta cuprins\u0103 \u00eentre 6 \u0219i 10 ani, copilul \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 finalitatea mor\u021bii, chiar dac\u0103 nu \u00een\u021beleg c\u0103 se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla acest lucru fiec\u0103rei fiin\u021be vii. La v\u00e2rsta de 9 ani copiii pot crede c\u0103 dac\u0103 se comport\u0103 \u00eentr-un anumit fel sau dac\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i vor pune o dorin\u021b\u0103 persoana drag\u0103 lor nu va mai muri. Deseori, copii afla\u021bi la acest\u0103 v\u00e2rst\u0103 personific\u0103 moartea ca fiind o fantom\u0103, un schelet, o pelerin\u0103 neagr\u0103 cu o coasa \u00een spate. Cel mai bine este s\u0103 \u00eei oferi\u021bi copilului informa\u021bii clare, precise, simple \u0219i oneste cu privire la moarte \u0219i la ceea ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat cu persoana decedat\u0103. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0La v\u00e2rsta adolescen\u021bei, copii \u00eencep s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 fiecare fiin\u021b\u0103 uman\u0103 moare \u00een cele din urm\u0103 indiferent de comportament, dorin\u021be sau orice altceva \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 fac\u0103 pentru a stopa moartea persoanei dragi. Un adolescent care \u00eentreab\u0103 de moarte nu a\u0219teapt\u0103 ca tu ca \u0219i p\u0103rinte s\u0103 \u00eei oferi un r\u0103spuns literal, ci mai degrab\u0103 un r\u0103spuns care s\u0103-l fac\u0103 s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 cursul natural al vie\u021bii. Oricare ar fi problema pe care adolescentul t\u0103u o \u00eent\u00e2mpin\u0103, cel mai bun suport pe care i-l po\u021bi oferi este aceea de a-l \u00eencuraja s\u0103 se exprime \u0219i de a-i \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219i \u0219i tu sentimentele \u0219i suferin\u021ba pe care o ai \u00een suflet dup\u0103 cele \u00eent\u00e2mplate.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Este bine s\u0103 iei copilul la \u00eenmorm\u00e2ntare? Depinde doar de tine \u0219i de copilul t\u0103u! At\u00e2ta timp c\u00e2t i-ai explicat copilului ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 la o \u00eenmorm\u00e2ntare, ulterior poate decide singur dac\u0103 dore\u0219te sau nu s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la eveniment. Dac\u0103 acesta refuz\u0103, nu f\u0103 \u00een a\u0219a fel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103-l faci s\u0103 se simt\u0103 vinovat pentru alegerea pe care a f\u0103cut-o! \u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103 detaliezi, spune-i c\u0103 trupul ne\u00eensufle\u021bit se va afla \u00eentins \u00eentr-un sicriu, la fa\u021b\u0103 nu mai arat\u0103 la fel ca \u00eenainte, persoana nu va fi capabil\u0103 s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103, s\u0103 vad\u0103 sau s\u0103 asculte, persoanele de fa\u021b\u0103 vor fi \u00eembr\u0103cate cu haine \u00eenchise la culoare \u2013 negre, unii oameni vor pl\u00e2nge, etc. Dac\u0103 e\u0219ti una din persoanele \u00eendurerate \u0219i crezi c\u0103 nu vei putea avea deplin\u0103 grij\u0103 de copilul t\u0103u \u00een acele momente, po\u021bi ruga o persoana apropiat\u0103 care va putea fi calm\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eei r\u0103spund\u0103 la eventualele \u00eentreb\u0103ri. Totodat\u0103, este important s\u0103 \u00eei ar\u0103\u021bi copilului t\u0103u ceea ce sim\u021bi, s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 pl\u00e2nsul este o reac\u021bie fireasc\u0103 a durerii \u0219i pierderii.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Iat\u0103 reac\u021biile pe care le pot avea copiii atunci c\u00e2nd cineva drag moare:<\/span><\/p>\n

Sentiment de vinov\u0103\u021bie<\/strong> \u2013 anumite studii au ar\u0103tat faptul c\u0103, atunci c\u00e2nd moare un membru al familiei apropiat (frate, sor\u0103 sau un p\u0103rinte) deseori, copilul se simte vinovat. Acesta nu are capacitatea de a \u00een\u021belege cauza \u0219i efectul rela\u021biilor, a ceea ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat. Copiii se g\u00e2ndesc c\u0103, \u00eentr-un fel ei au cauzat moartea celuilalt. Copiii pot vedea moartea ca pe o pedeaps\u0103 primit\u0103 de la cel care a murit: \u201eMama a murit \u0219i m-a l\u0103sat singur pentru c\u0103 am fost un copil r\u0103u.\u201d \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

Sentiment de furie<\/strong> \u2013 moartea unei persoane dragi poate cauza sentimente de furie at\u00e2t persoanelor adulte c\u00e2t \u0219i copiilor. Putem sim\u021bi furie fa\u021b\u0103 de doctorii care nu au reu\u0219it s\u0103 salveze persoana decedat\u0103 sau putem sim\u021bi furie fa\u021b\u0103 de noi \u00een\u0219ine pentru c\u0103 nu am reu\u0219it s\u0103 ne d\u0103m seama c\u0103 este \u00een pericol. Cu toate acestea, furia este o emo\u021bie fireasc\u0103 care are leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu durerea suferit\u0103 \u00een acele momente \u0219i trebuie s\u0103 o accept\u0103m ca atare.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

Regresie<\/strong> \u2013 copiii ar putea \u00eencepe s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i sug\u0103 degetul, s\u0103 aib\u0103 enurezis. Ace\u0219ti copii au nevoie de sprijin \u0219i \u00een\u021belegere. Astfel de regresii sunt temporare. <\/span><\/p>\n

Depresie \u0219i alte comportamente<\/strong> \u2013 unii copii se \u00eenchid \u00een ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i, iar furia resim\u021bit\u0103 se transform\u0103 \u00een depresie, se retrag, se enerveaz\u0103 foarte repede, devin agresivi, sau se manifest\u0103 fizic \u00een diverse forme. Dac\u0103 aceste schimb\u0103ri persist\u0103 mai mult de 6 luni ar fi bine s\u0103 consulta\u021bi un specialist \u00een psihoterapie care v\u0103 va putea ajuta. \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Psiholog clinician \u2013 psihoterapeut<\/span>
\n Eliza \u2013 Geanina\u00a0Cogian<\/span><\/p>\n

Copierea sau reproducerea f\u0103r\u0103 men\u021bionarea sursei este strict interzis\u0103!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 C\u0103 moartea este de fapt singura certitudine \u00een via\u021ba noastr\u0103 aceasta o \u0219tim cu to\u021bii! Interesant este c\u0103, de\u0219i e singurul adev\u0103r absolut, este lucrul despre care dorim s\u0103 vorbim cel mai pu\u021bin, mai mult, evit\u0103m subiectul c\u00e2t mai mult posibil.
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