{"id":277,"date":"2017-08-31T06:53:13","date_gmt":"2017-08-31T06:53:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=277"},"modified":"2017-10-31T21:37:10","modified_gmt":"2017-10-31T21:37:10","slug":"sfaturi-pentru-a-depasi-conflictul-cu-autoritatea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/08\/31\/sfaturi-pentru-a-depasi-conflictul-cu-autoritatea\/","title":{"rendered":"Sfaturi pentru a dep\u0103\u0219i conflictul cu autoritatea"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201eVia\u0163a de familie este prima \u0219coal\u0103 a emo\u0163iilor\u201d \u2013 Daniel Goleman<\/em><\/strong>\"\"<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Ce persoane crede\u0163i c\u0103 le putem vedea ca fiind autoritare? Depinde de fiecare persoan\u0103 \u00een parte, dar printre persoanele autoritare cel mai des \u00eent\u00e2lnite sunt \u00een primul r\u00e2nd p\u0103rin\u0163ii, profesorii \u0219i \u0219eful de la munc\u0103.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Multe persoane tr\u0103iesc o stare de discomfort puternic atunci c\u00e2nd trebuie s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2lneasc\u0103 cu persoanele din via\u0163a lor pe care le consider\u0103 ca fiind autoritare. Chiar mai mult, simt o teroare cumplit\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd sunt chemate \u00een biroul \u0219efului sau au un sentiment de supunere fa\u0163\u0103 de acesta, de colegii mai \u00een v\u00e2rst\u0103 sau sunt pur \u0219i simplu paraliza\u0163i \u00een fa\u0163a unor persoane pe care le percep ca fiind superioare.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Ce se afl\u0103 \u00een spatele acestor frici?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>Pentru a reu\u0219i s\u0103 dep\u0103\u0219e\u0219ti conflictul cu autoritatea, e necesar \u00een primul r\u00e2nd s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegi care e cauza. La baza acestor emo\u0163ii tr\u0103ite fa\u0163\u0103 de o persoan\u0103 pe care o consider\u0103m autoritar\u0103 se afl\u0103 o puternica depreciere de sine, ne\u00eencredere, o stim\u0103 de sine sc\u0103zut\u0103, iar valoarea de sine depinde \u00een principal de ceea ce spun ceilal\u0163i.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Originea fricii de autoritate<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>Majoritatea persoanelor c\u0103rora le este fric\u0103 de autoritate se simt ca \u0219i cum ar fi un copil \u00een fa\u0163a unui parinte. Ele se simt imperfecte, imature, mici, \u00een fa\u0163a unui p\u0103rinte autoritar, perfect, matur, puternic, mare. Prin mecanismul proiec\u0163iei, persoana proiecteaz\u0103 pe persoanele considerate autoritare idealul de perfec\u0163iune pe care \u0219i l-a format \u00een copil\u0103rie \u00een rela\u0163ia cu p\u0103rin\u0163ii.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Ce leg\u0103tur\u0103 este \u00eentre p\u0103rin\u0163i \u0219i autoritate?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>Autoritatea este un lucru benefic \u00een dezvoltarea \u0219i educa\u0163ia propriului copil. Cu to\u0163ii avem nevoie de educa\u0163ie \u0219i aceasta o primim \u00een primul r\u00e2nd de la p\u0103rin\u0163ii no\u0219tri. Uneori, sau mai bine zis, deseori, pentru implementarea regulilor de educa\u0163ie, p\u0103rin\u0163ii le impun acestea propriilor copii apel\u00e2nd la metode mai pu\u0163in pl\u0103cute precum pedeapsa, sau chiar b\u0103taia, din nefericire. Mul\u0163i p\u0103rin\u0163i pleac\u0103 de la ideea preconceput\u0103 c\u0103 \u201eb\u0103taia este rupt\u0103 din rai\u201d, sau \u201cb\u0103taia este mama \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103turii\u201d lucru care nu este deloc adev\u0103rat! C\u00e2\u0163i copii, dup\u0103 ce sunt b\u0103tu\u0163i fac ceea ce le-au cerut p\u0103rin\u0163ii? Cei care se conformeaz\u0103 o fac din fric\u0103, nu c\u0103 au \u00een\u0163eles de ce trebuie sau nu s\u0103 fac\u0103 un anumit lucru! \u015ei \u00een acest mod, p\u0103rin\u0163ii devin persoane autoritare \u00een fa\u0163a propriilor copii, c\u00e2\u0219tig\u00e2nd \u201eo lupt\u0103\u201d, frica copilului fa\u0163\u0103 de propriul p\u0103rinte, dar pierz\u00e2nd ceea ce este mai important: dragostea \u0219i respectul propriului copil! Un copil \u201e\u00eengenunchiat\u201d cu for\u0163a niciodat\u0103 nu te va respecta!<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Cum s\u0103 evit ca p\u0103rinte s\u0103 devin autoritar \u00eentr-un mod negativ fa\u0163\u0103 de propriul copil?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cenva\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 spui \u201eNu\u201d copilului t\u0103u, dar urmat de o explica\u0163ie pentru ca acesta s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleag\u0103 diferen\u0163a \u00eentre ceea ce este bine \u0219i ceea ce este r\u0103u. Faptul c\u0103 e\u0219ti p\u0103rinte nu-\u0163i d\u0103 dreptul s\u0103 spui: \u201eNu! Pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a vreau eu!\u201d. Acest lucru va ajuta \u00een evitarea ulterioarelor posibile conflicte dintre voi.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00cen momentele \u00een care sim\u0163i c\u0103 devii furios \u0219i crezi c\u0103 nu te vei putea controla \u00een momentele imediat urm\u0103toare, pleac\u0103 de l\u00e2ng\u0103 copil, iar dup\u0103 ce te vei sim\u0163i mai bine discut\u0103 cu el \u00eentr-o manier\u0103 asertiv\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 a-l ofensa \u0219i agresa \u00een vre-un fel.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cencurajeaz\u0103-\u0163i copilul ori de c\u00e2te ori respect\u0103 regulile \u0219i \u00eencurajeaz\u0103-l \u00een sus\u0163inerea propriilor idei, accept\u0103 \u0219i solu\u0163iile lui alternative, sau negocia\u0163i \u00eempreun\u0103 anumite reguli.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Ce pot face atunci c\u00e2nd p\u0103rintele meu este autoritar?\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Dac\u0103 p\u0103rintele este suficient de empatic \u0219i de deschis \u00een a accepta s\u0103 discuta\u0163i despre trecutul s\u0103u, vei \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103 totul a pornit de c\u00e2nd era \u0219i el copil, de la educa\u0163ia primit\u0103 da la p\u0103rin\u0163ii s\u0103i. Aceste discu\u0163ii te pot face mai \u00een\u0163eleg\u0103tor \u0219i s\u0103 nu devii furios \u0219i reactiv atunci c\u00e2nd p\u0103rintele \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 se impun\u0103 \u00een fa\u0163a ta \u00eentr-un mod agresiv.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Acela\u0219i lucru se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla ulterior \u0219i \u00een preajma altor persoane pe care le consideri tu ca fiind autoritare. Vei reu\u0219i s\u0103 le prive\u0219ti cu empatie \u0219i vei \u00een\u0163elege c\u0103, \u00eenainte de toate, acea persoan\u0103 este o fiin\u0163\u0103 uman\u0103 \u0219i mai apoi o persoan\u0103 care \u201ejoac\u0103 un rol autoritar\u201d \u2013 de exemplu de \u0219ef care le \u0219tie pe toate\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Este important s\u0103 \u00een\u0163eleg c\u0103 am crescut mare \u0219i nu mai sunt copilul fricos \u0219i neajutorat de alt\u0103 dat\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n

Psiholog clinician \u2013 psihoterapeut<\/span>
\n Eliza \u2013 Geanina\u00a0Cogian<\/span><\/p>\n

Copierea sau reproducerea f\u0103r\u0103 men\u021bionarea sursei este strict interzis\u0103!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201eVia\u0163a de familie este prima \u0219coal\u0103 a emo\u0163iilor\u201d \u2013 Daniel Goleman
\nCe persoane crede\u0163i c\u0103 le putem vedea ca fiind autoritare? Depinde de fiecare persoan\u0103 \u00een parte, dar printre persoanele autoritare cel mai des \u00eent\u00e2lnite sunt \u00een primul r\u00e2nd p\u0103rin\u0163ii, profesorii \u0219i \u0219eful de la munc\u0103.\u00a0
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