{"id":325,"date":"2017-11-12T19:35:17","date_gmt":"2017-11-12T19:35:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=325"},"modified":"2018-06-10T13:31:16","modified_gmt":"2018-06-10T13:31:16","slug":"cum-ii-spun-iubitului-ce-vreau-in-pat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2017\/11\/12\/cum-ii-spun-iubitului-ce-vreau-in-pat\/","title":{"rendered":"Cum \u00eei spun iubitului ce vreau \u00een pat?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Nu-i a\u0219a c\u0103, nu de pu\u021bine ori, te fr\u0103m\u00e2nt\u00e2 g\u00e2ndul, natural de altfel, \u201eCum s\u0103-i spun ce-mi doresc \u00een pat?\u201d P\u0103i s\u0103 o lu\u0103m logic \u0219i psihologic! Ceea ce te face s\u0103 nu ai curaj e, bine\u00een\u021beles, emo\u021bia primar\u0103 care se nume\u0219te ru\u0219ine. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Ru\u0219ine c\u0103 m\u0103 va judeca, c\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i va face o p\u0103rere gre\u0219it\u0103 despre mine, c\u0103 va r\u00e2de de mine, c\u0103 voi fi ridiculizat\u0103 \u0219i…. lista continu\u0103. P\u0103rerea mea este c\u0103 e vremea s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi dou\u0103 lucruri:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Ru\u0219inea pe care ai \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat-o \u00een casa p\u0103rinteasc\u0103, copil fiind, nu-\u0219i mai are rostul. Dac\u0103 nu \u0219tii, afl\u0103 c\u0103 te-ai f\u0103cut mare, e\u0219ti propriul t\u0103u st\u0103p\u00e2n \u0219i e timpul s\u0103 \u0219tii ce vrei \u0219i s\u0103 ceri asta. \u00cen caz contrar, o vizit\u0103 la psihoterapeut e binevenit\u0103.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Chiar dac\u0103 o feminist\u0103 nu mi-ar da dreptate, principalul scop al unui b\u0103rbat atunci c\u00e2nd intr\u0103 \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie, este s\u0103-\u0219i satisfac\u0103 partenera. Pentru el, faptul c\u0103 tu \u00ee\u021bi exprimi dorin\u021bele, \u00eel face s\u0103 fie sigur de reu\u0219it\u0103 \u0219i va fi din ce \u00een ce mai bun. Orice b\u0103rbat vrea s\u0103 fie perceput ca fiind cel mai bun iubit pe care l-ai avut.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Bine\u00een\u021beles vei spune: \u201eU\u0219or de spus, greu de f\u0103cut….\u201d. Sunt de acord cu tine! Din p\u0103cate suntem \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi, tot acas\u0103, c\u0103: p\u0103rerea mea nu conteaz\u0103, mul\u021bume\u0219te-te cu ce ai, e mai bine s\u0103 taci, nu intereseaz\u0103 pe nimeni ce simt, se poate \u0219i mai r\u0103u \u0219i din nou… lista continu\u0103. Dac\u0103 nu vei trece aceste bariere, scuz\u00e2ndu-te mereu, probabil c\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 nu se va schimba nimic \u0219i nu va r\u0103m\u00e2ne dec\u00e2t s\u0103-\u021bi pl\u00e2ngi de mil\u0103 sau s\u0103-l critici. Deja se vede, din p\u0103cate, cap\u0103tul drumului \u00een doi.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Totu\u0219i, pentru \u00eenceput, vreau s\u0103-\u021bi dau c\u00e2teva solu\u021bii, care s\u0103 te ajute s\u0103 prinzi curaj:<\/span><\/p>\n