{"id":349,"date":"2018-02-19T13:25:43","date_gmt":"2018-02-19T13:25:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=349"},"modified":"2018-02-27T12:39:21","modified_gmt":"2018-02-27T12:39:21","slug":"tu-ce-cari-in-bagaj","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2018\/02\/19\/tu-ce-cari-in-bagaj\/","title":{"rendered":"Tu ce cari \u00een bagaj?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cen primii 7 ani din via\u021b\u0103, prin interac\u021biunea cu ceea ce ne \u00eenconjoar\u0103, oameni \u0219i experien\u021be, se inscrip\u021bioneaz\u0103 \u00een subcon\u0219tientul nostru anumite programe de baz\u0103, care ne vor ajuta la adaptare \u0219i supravie\u021buire pe tot parcursul vie\u021bii. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"\"Deoarece copilul p\u00e2n\u0103 la acea v\u00e2rst\u0103 nu are dezvoltat\u0103 judecata logic\u0103, aceast\u0103 implementare are loc practic incon\u0219tient, f\u0103r\u0103 o selec\u021bie prealabil\u0103, f\u0103r\u0103 posibilitatea copilului de a alege ce e bine, ce e r\u0103u, ce e logic \u0219i ce nu, ce program e bun de instalat \u0219i care nu. \u00cen timp, folosite de mai multe ori, acestea vor deveni automatisme care ne vor ghida practic via\u021ba. Fiind incon\u0219tiente, ca orice automatism, noi vom ac\u021biona \u00een consecin\u021b\u0103, fiind dispu\u0219i oric\u00e2nd s\u0103 le neg\u0103m pentru a nu ne produce suferin\u021b\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd suntem nevoi\u021bi s\u0103 le recunoa\u0219tem.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Aceste programe incon\u0219tiente se transmit transgenera\u021bional, f\u0103r\u0103 anumite \u201eexplica\u021bii\u201d prealabile \u0219i nu de pu\u021bine ori spunem, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u0219tim de ce: \u201eIstoria se repet\u0103…\u201d … \u201eA avut via\u021ba mamei… sau a tat\u0103lui…\u201d. Ele sunt de fapt ni\u0219te func\u021bii cum ar fi func\u021bia digestiv\u0103, func\u021bia respiratorie, de exemplu. Noi ne na\u0219tem, deci \u201emo\u0219tenim\u201d, \u00een jur de 2000 de programe de baz\u0103. P\u00e2n\u0103 la v\u00e2rsta de 14 ani acumul\u0103m circa 80% din programele cu care vom func\u021biona \u00eentreaga via\u021b\u0103. Programele pot fi naturale sau dob\u00e2ndite. Cele dob\u00e2ndite trebuie repetate de un num\u0103r mare de ori pentru a putea fi interiorizate, recunoscute de creier \u0219i folosite la nevoie. Programele se formeaz\u0103 prin repetare fie chinestezic\u0103, fie verbal\u0103, auditiv\u0103 sau mental\u0103. Dup\u0103 ce s-a f\u0103cut repetarea de un num\u0103r suficient de ori \u00eentr-o unitate de timp, creierul \u00eel transform\u0103 \u00een automatism \u0219i \u00eel stocheaz\u0103 \u00een subcon\u0219tient. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Programele pot fi bune, pozitive, dar \u0219i negative, acestea din urm\u0103, folosite pe parcursul vie\u021bii, produc disfunc\u021bionalit\u0103\u021bi urmate de emo\u021bii negative \u0219i suferin\u021ba subiectului. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 C\u00e2nd ajungem la maturitate avem deja format\u0103 o realitate pe care o urm\u0103m \u0219i nu concepem c\u0103 lucrurile ar putea fi \u0219i altfel, adic\u0103 nu concepem c\u0103 ar putea exista \u0219i o alt\u0103 realitate. Totul este doar a\u0219a cum \u0219tim noi \u0219i nu \u00een\u021belegem de ce ar trebui s\u0103 schimb\u0103m ceva la noi. Cel\u0103lalt trebuie s\u0103 se schimbe \u0219i s\u0103 corespund\u0103 realit\u0103\u021bii noastre. \u00cen fiecare secund\u0103 suntem bombarda\u021bi prin sim\u021burile noastre de o mul\u021bime de mesaje, doar c\u0103 subcon\u0219tientul nostru alege pe ce semnale s\u0103 ne concentr\u0103m, ca s\u0103 valid\u0103m \u00een permanen\u021b\u0103 programele implementate c\u00e2ndva.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Iat\u0103 \u0219i un exemplu: dac\u0103 \u00een copil\u0103rie eram mereu criticat\u0103 de mam\u0103 \u0219i mi se spunea c\u0103 sunt neputincioas\u0103, pe parcursul vie\u021bii eu voi fi mereu concentrat\u0103 pe neputin\u021bele mele, pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a \u0219tiu c\u0103 sunt, nu voi fi concentrat\u0103 pe ceea ce fac bun. Mai mult, \u00eei voi considera \u00eendrept\u0103\u021bi\u021bi pe aceia care m\u0103 vor critica \u0219i \u00eemi vor spune c\u0103 sunt neputincioas\u0103. Aten\u021bie! Asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 m\u0103 voi sim\u021bi bine c\u00e2nd voi fi criticat\u0103! Eu ca adult \u00eemi dau seama c\u0103 e ceva \u00een neregul\u0103, c\u0103 suf\u0103r, dar nu-mi pot da seama de ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 asta, pentru c\u0103…. programul e incon\u0219tient. E ca \u0219i cum toat\u0103 via\u021ba ai mers pe acela\u0219i drum spre \u0219coal\u0103 \u0219i nu \u0219tii c\u0103 ar putea fi un alt drum mai u\u0219or \u0219i mai frumos. Mai mult! Dac\u0103 \u00eencerci s\u0103 mergi pe cel\u0103lalt drum nu te sim\u021bi confortabil, pentru c\u0103 nu-l cuno\u0219ti. Oric\u00e2t te-ai str\u0103dui de unul singur, subcon\u0219tientul t\u0103u nu va ceda \u0219i nu te va l\u0103sa s\u0103 vezi ceea ce e bine pentru tine. Terapeutul este, dac\u0103 pot spune a\u0219a, \u201eun subcon\u0219tient de tranzi\u021bie\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cen urma unui proces psihoterapeutic terapeutul te ajut\u0103 s\u0103 depistezi programele nocive, s\u0103 le con\u0219tientizezi, s\u0103 le \u00een\u021belegi provenien\u021ba \u0219i s\u0103 le \u00eenlocuie\u0219ti cu alte programe noi, benefice. Este un proces de durat\u0103 care presupune repet\u0103ri \u0219i perseveren\u021b\u0103 din partea subiectului.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Tu ce programe nes\u0103n\u0103toase ai depistat la tine?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Psiholog clinician \u2013 psihoterapeut<\/span>
\n Antoanela \u2013 Carmen\u00a0Cogian<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00cen primii 7 ani din via\u021b\u0103, prin interac\u021biunea cu ceea ce ne \u00eenconjoar\u0103, oameni \u0219i experien\u021be, se inscrip\u021bioneaz\u0103 \u00een subcon\u0219tientul nostru anumite programe de baz\u0103, care ne vor ajuta la adaptare \u0219i supravie\u021buire pe tot parcursul vie\u021bii.
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