{"id":353,"date":"2018-02-27T12:33:00","date_gmt":"2018-02-27T12:33:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/?p=353"},"modified":"2018-02-27T12:33:00","modified_gmt":"2018-02-27T12:33:00","slug":"abuzul-sexual-la-copii-sau-micul-secret","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2018\/02\/27\/abuzul-sexual-la-copii-sau-micul-secret\/","title":{"rendered":"Abuzul sexual la copii sau \u201emicul secret\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Problema abuzului sexual la copii este foarte veche, primele referiri \u0219tiin\u021bifice f\u0103c\u00e2ndu-se la \u00eenceputul anilor 1960. Unul din \u0219ase copii sunt abuza\u021bi sexual, iar 75% dintre ace\u0219tia nu spun.\u00a0 M\u0103rturisirea abuzului sexual suferit este dificil\u0103 din multe puncte de vedere, copiii fiind mitui\u021bi sau amenin\u021ba\u021bi de c\u0103tre abuzator. <\/span><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-355\" src=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/Abuzul-sexual-la-copii-sau-micul-secret-228x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"228\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/Abuzul-sexual-la-copii-sau-micul-secret-228x300.jpg 228w, https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/Abuzul-sexual-la-copii-sau-micul-secret.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 228px) 100vw, 228px\" \/>Copiii pot crede c\u0103 abuzul sexual s-a produs din vina lor \u0219i c\u0103 vor avea probleme dac\u0103 vor spune cuiva. Ei se pot teme c\u0103 nu vor mai putea locui acas\u0103, c\u0103 vor cauza divor\u021bul p\u0103rin\u021bilor, c\u0103 cineva apropiat va merge la \u00eenchisoare, c\u0103 p\u0103rin\u021bii nu \u00eei voi crede, sau le este fric\u0103 s\u0103 le comunice p\u0103rin\u021bilor despre abuz. Confuzia, ru\u0219inea \u0219i teama sunt sentimente puternice pe care copilul abuzat le tr\u0103ie\u0219te \u00een secret.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <strong>Semne \u0219i simptome ale copilului abuzat sexual<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">tulbur\u0103ri emo\u021bionale: fric\u0103, anxietate, depresie, obsesii \u0219i suicid;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">diferite manifest\u0103ri psihosomatice;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">fuga de acas\u0103;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">tulbur\u0103ri de \u00eenv\u0103\u021bare, copilul nu mai d\u0103 randament la \u0219coal\u0103 ca \u00eenainte;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">comportament ciudat \u00een timpul examin\u0103rii corporale;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">leziuni genitale;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">diferite boli venerice cu transmitere sexual\u0103 depistate cu ajutorul unui examen bacteriologic.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">co\u0219maruri, sau dificult\u0103\u021bi \u00een a adormi;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">nu dore\u0219te s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 singur cu un anumit copil sau cu o alt\u0103 persoan\u0103;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">poate avea un comportament ciudat \u00een prezen\u021ba abuzatorului sau \u00een locul unde a fost abuzat: b\u00e2lb\u00e2ial\u0103, tremurat, enuresis;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Ce trebuie s\u0103 \u0219tie copiii despre abuzul sexual pentru a putea s\u0103-l identifice \u0219i s\u0103-l comunice unui adult \u00een care are \u00eencredere:<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Identificarea adul\u021bilor \u00een care poate avea \u00eencredere \u2013 asta nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 dac\u0103 cineva \u00eei este familiar poate fi \u0219i o persoan\u0103 de \u00eencredere;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Corpul \u00eei apar\u021bine \u0219i trebuie s\u0103 spun\u0103 dac\u0103 cineva \u00eel atinge \u2013 este bine de men\u021bionat copilului c\u0103 ocazional, medicul \/ asistenta de la gradini\u021b\u0103, \u0219coal\u0103 sau spital sau chiar un p\u0103rinte, vor fi nevoi\u021bi s\u0103 \u00eei verifice corpul dac\u0103 spun c\u0103 au vreo m\u00e2nc\u0103rime, dac\u0103 \u00eei doare ceva, lucru care nu va dura mult \u0219i nu va fi un secret;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Copilul trebuie s\u0103 fie \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat care sunt p\u0103r\u021bile lui intime;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Copiii mai mari sau adolescen\u021bii, chiar \u0219i adul\u021bii care \u00eei ating p\u0103r\u021bile intime, \u0219tiu c\u0103 este ceva gre\u0219it \u0219i nu doresc s\u0103 fie descoperi\u021bi, de aceea vor \u00eencerca s\u0103-i pac\u0103leasc\u0103;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Nu trebuie s\u0103 fie un secret dac\u0103 cineva \u00eel atinge! Dac\u0103 cineva \u00eei spune copilului s\u0103 \u021bin\u0103 secret faptul c\u0103-i atinge p\u0103r\u021bile intime, acesta este un indiciu c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 spun\u0103 ceea ce i s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Copilul trebuie s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 abuzul sexual sau chiar \u0219i cel fizic nu se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 din vina lui \u0219i nu ar trebui s\u0103 se simt\u0103 vinovat.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24px;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola;\">\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Care sunt tacticile folosite de un abuzator<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">abuzatorul \u00ee\u0219i alege victimele foarte atent, fiind focusat pe acei copii care consider\u0103 c\u0103 nu \u00eel vor refuza \u0219i cu care vor avea ulterior oportunitatea s\u0103 petreac\u0103 timp \u00eempreun\u0103;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">abuzatorul \u00eentinde mici capcane copiilor de-a lungul timpului \u0219i \u00eei p\u0103c\u0103le\u0219te at\u00e2t pe ei c\u00e2t \u0219i pe p\u0103rin\u021bii lor uneori, pentru a le c\u00e2\u0219tiga \u00eencrederea: pretind c\u0103 sunt prieteni cu copilul;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">abuzatorul testeaz\u0103 limitele copilului: face glume, \u00eel m\u00e2ng\u00e2ie pe spate, \u00eel g\u00e2dil\u0103, joac\u0103 jocuri sexuale precum striptease, \u00eel atinge din ce \u00een ce mai des, iar dup\u0103 o perioad\u0103 mai \u00eendelungat\u0103 \u00eei atinge accidental p\u0103r\u021bile intime;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">abuzatorul apeleaz\u0103 la intimidarea copilului folosind frica, ru\u0219inea sau vinov\u0103\u021bia pentru a-l \u00eempiedica s\u0103 spun\u0103 ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd se \u00eent\u00e2lnesc;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">vizionarea de materiale cu imagini sexuale explicite pentru a satisface curiozitatea natural\u0103 a copilului p\u00e2n\u0103 la normalizarea comportamentului sexual cu ajutorul imaginilor, filmelor, mesaje pe telefon \u0219i descrieri ale actelor sexuale;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">abuzatorul \u00eel \u00eencurajeaz\u0103 pe copil s\u0103 nu respecte anumite reguli impuse de p\u0103rin\u021bii s\u0103i pentru ca mai apoi rela\u021bia s\u0103 devin\u0103 secret\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103-l \u0219antajeze \u00een caz c\u0103 ar dori s\u0103 spun\u0103 vreunei persoane ceea ce i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">folosirea de droguri sau alcool este o alt\u0103 metod\u0103 de nerespectare a regulilor, ceea ce \u00eel va pune pe copil \u00een imposibilitatea de a comunica ceea ce i se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 unei persoane de \u00eencredere;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">blamarea \u0219i intimidarea copilului f\u0103c\u00e2ndu-l s\u0103 se simt\u0103 responsabil de abuz sau ce s-ar putea s\u0103 i se \u00eent\u00e2mple lui sau familiei sale dac\u0103 va spune ceva mai departe \u0219i nu \u021bine acest secret.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Psiholog clinician \u2013 psihoterapeut<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Eliza \u2013 Geanina Cogian<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Gabriola; font-size: 24px;\">Copierea sau reproducerea f\u0103r\u0103 men\u021bionarea sursei este strict interzis\u0103!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Problema abuzului sexual la copii este foarte veche, primele referiri \u0219tiin\u021bifice f\u0103c\u00e2ndu-se la \u00eenceputul anilor 1960. Unul din \u0219ase copii sunt abuza\u021bi sexual, iar 75% dintre ace\u0219tia nu spun.\u00a0 M\u0103rturisirea abuzului sexual suferit este dificil\u0103 din multe puncte de vedere, copiii fiind mitui\u021bi sau amenin\u021ba\u021bi de c\u0103tre abuzator. <br \/>\n <a class=\"read-more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/2018\/02\/27\/abuzul-sexual-la-copii-sau-micul-secret\/\">READ MORE<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":355,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[22,16,14,15],"class_list":["post-353","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-parinti-si-copii","tag-eliza-geanina-cogian","tag-iasi","tag-psiholog-iasi","tag-psihoterapeut-iasi"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/Abuzul-sexual-la-copii-sau-micul-secret.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/353","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=353"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/353\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":356,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/353\/revisions\/356"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/355"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=353"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=353"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psihologterapeutiasi.ro\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=353"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}